What’s The Catch?

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Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you… Feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who never would have given up on them.~ Unknown

Earlier this year I was approached by someone offering services that anybody would be ecstatic to accept… with no catch!  Pfft… There is ALWAYS a catch!

Needless to say, I accepted this offer, “with no catch.” Over the past few months I have become accustomed to daily chats and looked forward the ‘work’ banter, because after all, this was a business relationship. The hard work and effort we were both putting in kept me motivated and I was learning many things from the plethora of information my friend had. And I was continually excited about what I would learn next.

Then… as fast as this friend came into my life, he was gone in an instant! He totally cut and ran when things started to get a little bumpy. BLOCKED! No more contact! He gave up on me… lumped me in with his long list of douche bags! Totally hurt my feelings!

The sad part and truly the tragedy in all of this is what my friend doesn’t understand… It really wasn’t the information that was the valuable part to me. It was in the relationship/friendship itself that I found the true value!

So, what was the catch? The catch for me was I let someone into my circle, which honestly, doesn’t happen that often, only to have this person who I thought was my friend say, “Eff YOU! You aren’t worth my time!” YES! Feelings were and are still hurt. (I’m sure on both sides).  But no hard feelings!  I’M STILL A FAN!

I am not going to let the opinion of someone else dictate the way I feel about me, I have come too far. I will continue on my path and work hard toward my goals and dreams! NOTHING can stop me!

Secrets?

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I am asked nearly everyday, “What is the secret to… great abs, losing fat, building muscle.. etc.” People are ALWAYS disappointed when I tell them there are no magic pills or potions.

There are NO SECRETS! It is called hard ass work! It is called discipline! It is called dedication. It’s waking up before the rest of the world and getting your workout done. It’s saying no to that chocolate cake, cookie, or ice cream. It’s not snacking in the evenings. It’s doing things that may be hard day in and day out. It is sometimes being the only one in your office eating chicken and broccoli while everyone else is enjoying Cafe Rio! Sometimes it is fighting an internal emotional battle. Sometimes it’s a walk in the park. I could go on and on! But really what it comes down to is consistency and sticking with your program! It’s feeling good about the choices you are making and keeping your eye on the “prize!”

We Are Stronger In The Broken Places

It has been said, “We are stronger in the places that we’ve been broken.” ~Ernest Hemingway

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I am a creature of habit! I thrive on structure and routine! I like knowing exactly what to plan for. Throw off my routine and well, you might not like what you get… My poor family…

Several weeks ago my routine was thrown off, we had some crazy come into our lives, my hormones were way out of the ball park, amongst other things. Let’s just say, it was a perfect storm.  And boy did that storm feel like a tornado!

But you know what?  I am now better equipped for the next obstacle that will come, because as you know, there is always another one lurking around the corner. Knowing what triggered or contributed to a set back is key in overcoming and conquering the next challenge. Making a mistake is ok.. as long as you continue to try and don’t give up. The knowledge learned from making a mistake can be invaluable in all aspects of your life!

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I think the most important thing I have learned is that mistakes and failures help you grow and become a stronger person.  And really, that is a good thing! Giving up is not an option.  Learning from mistakes is imperative.  I realize that does not mean I won’t make the same mistakes again, but maybe next time it won’t take me as long to correct them…

So… as those broken places made me feel weak and vulnerable in the past, I hope to be able to trust that they will make me strong in the future!

Soaring Like An Eagle

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An enterprising turkey gathered a flock together and following instructions and demonstrations, taught them how to fly. All afternoon they enjoyed soaring, flying, and the thrill of seeing new vistas. After the meeting, all of the turkeys walked home.

I heard this story several years ago and I was reminded of it the other day… I have been thinking about how even though I have been taught to “fly” I sometimes still settle for mediocrity in my life. We all have greatness within us, we CAN soar like eagles! So why is it that we sometimes walk like turkeys? Why do we put limitations on ourselves? The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits, because truly… there are NO LIMITS!

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I feel like I am about to take flight. The excitement is building and I am ready to soar! I am motivated and looking forward to what the next several months will bring.

“One cannot consent to creep when one feels the impulse to soar.”~Unknown

Which are you going to be? A turkey or an Eagle?

The Other Side Of Fear

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I have been doing some soul searching, well, I have been doing A LOT of soul searching over the past several days… Asking myself question after question: What am I afraid of? How bad do I want this? Am I satisfied/content with things the way they are?

I emailed Todd the other night: Todd I’m in my way! I can’t seem to find the switch to turn the focus back on…What is wrong with me? Ugh!

Let me just say right now… I. LOVE. TODD! His response was exactly what I needed. I love how he just says things the way they are. He gave me much to ponder and think about… He gave me some really good advice. Funny how one little conversation can change one’s perspective.

I have also found several quotes on Pinterest (you can follow me here) that have really hit home with me…

“You can have results or excuses. NOT both!”

“Where there is no struggle there is no strength.”

“Life is way too short to spend another day at war with yourself.”

“If you have discipline, drive and determination…Nothing is impossible.”-Dana Linn Bailey

“Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.” -Michael Jordan

“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.”

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do… And what you have to do to get where you want to be may not be pretty or may not come easy..”

I am ready to give this my all! I am ready for the sacrifice! I am a force to be reckoned with!

RAWRRR!!

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Hooked On A Feeling

Hubby and I were playing Name That Tune the other day and the BJ Thomas favorite, Hooked On A Feeling came up… As I listened to the words they hit a chord, so to speak, in my mind… got me thinking about…FOOD!  Following are the lyrics to the song. I have changed a few words to help make my point..

I can’t stop this feelin’ deep inside of me

Food,* you just don’t realize what you do to me
When I hold you in my hands so tight*
You let me know everything’s all right

I-I-I, I’m hooked on a feelin’
High on believin’ that you’re in love with me

Lips are sweet as candy, the taste stays on my mind
Food*, you keep me thirsty for another cup of wine
I got it bad for you, food* but I don’t need a cure
I’ll just stay addicted and hope I can endure

All the good love when we’re all alone
Keep it up, food*, yeah ya turn me on

I-I-I, I’m hooked on a feelin’
High on believin’ that you’re in love with me…

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EMOTIONAL EATING!

My whole life I have struggled with emotional eating. Even though I have become better at recognizing my triggers and have learned some tricks to help, I still struggle with it. I have been known to eat an entire jar of Nutella.. all by myself! At times, we all eat for emotional reasons. When we are bored, happy, sad, anxious, stressed… There could even be a different comfort food for each emotion! We are taught from a young age that when we are sad a sweet treat cheers us up. This is reinforced year after year until we are practicing the same behavior as adults.

What is emotional eating? It’s a vicious circle…

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*Emotional hunger comes on suddenly

*You crave a specific food when you are eating to fill a void

*Emotional hunger feels like it has to be satisfied NOW! with the food you crave

*You are more likely to keep eating when you are full to satisfy your emotional need

*Emotional eating leaves behind feelings of guilt

Common sense says when you eat when you are not hungry, chances are your body does NOT need those calories, and if this happens too often, well, you are going to get fat.

So what do you do? You can take steps to control your cravings and get yourself back on course to attain your goals. These are some things that have worked for me and helped stop the emotional eating roller coaster.

*Recognize that it is emotional eating and learn what triggers this behavior in you.

*Keep a food journal. Write down what you eat, how much you eat, when you eat, how you are feeling when you eat and how hungry you are. Over time you will see patterns emerge that reveal the connection between mood and food.

*Fight Boredom. Take a walk, call a friend, play a game, do laundry, do the dishes (my favorite).. just do something productive to take your mind off the craving.

*Get support. You are more likely to give in to emotional eating if you lack a good support network. Lean on family and friends or join a support group.

*Take away temptation. Don’t keep supplies of comfort foods in your home if they are hard for you to resist… i.e. Nutella! (I don’t have ANY in my house.. I know I can’t eat it responsibly). And if you feel angry or sad, postpone your trip to the grocery store until you are sure your emotions are in check.

*Don’t deprive yourself. When trying to achieve a weight-loss goal, you may limit your calories too much, eat the same foods and banish the treats you enjoy. This may serve to increase your cravings, especially in response to emotions. Allow yourself to enjoy an occasional treat and get plenty of variety to help curb cravings. Remember, moderation is key!

*Snack healthy. When you do get the urge to eat between meals, find a comfort food that is healthy, instead of junk food.

*Learn from setbacks. If you have an emotional eating episode, don’t beat yourself up! Start fresh. Try to learn from the experience and make a plan for how you can prevent it in the future. Focus on the positive changes you are making in your eating habits and give yourself the credit you deserve for making the changes that will lead to better health.